Chris left for the Basic Training middle of January and we filled for divorce shortly after that. The Army is a funny thing, it either makes you or breaks you. I was hoping it would make him but thought it would surely break him. Chris finished Basic and was stationed in Monterey California waiting for his language classes to begin. He had a few days off in July and wanted to come back to Utah to visit Griffin (and I) before his classes because he would have no time off to visit once they started. About a month leading up to his July visit he would call me all the time and tell me how great he is, and how we should start dating again. I didn't want any part of it and didn't want to look back. I didn't think any body could change just because they went to Basic Training. However, I finally started listening to him and was wanting and curious to see if anything had changed.
He arrived in Utah and we pretty much hung out the whole nine days he was here. He was adorable, he was strong, and confident. He had this new outlook on life, he was happy, he was full of life, he had goals, he actually liked to excercise, he was a better father, he was inshape, he watched what he ate, he wasn't on any medications. He was finally himself, he was finally sound, he finally grew up and had his head on straight. I was not expecting to feel the way I felt when I saw him and I was not expecting the army to break him down and build him back.
Well then reality hit, we talked about getting married again CRAZY, CRAZY, CRAZY. It felt right, he was the man I married the first time, almost six years early. Life got crazy for four of those years. He lost himself he lost site on life. But he was back and better then ever I couldn't just walk away. I knew that if we got married that he would work harder at being a father and a husband, that he wouldn't quite or give up on anything.
Then while talking with my sister and telling her how bizarre this is that i would want to marry him again. She said, "well, he is going to be in school for the next year and won't be able to leave. He is leaving back to CA in two days, so really the only time to get married is tomorrow" lol, she was right. I wasn't about to date him long distance, he's in the Army so we don't need anymore long distance time, we will have plenty of those possibly in our future. It came down to two days. I made a few phone calls and had everyone asking me if this is what I want. I wouldn't do it unless i wanted it. Of course it was what I wanted. No really knows what that like getting married to your first husband for the second time. It just doesn't happen all that often. Unless your on Desperate House wives....My family had mixed emotions and people were shocked, but so was I. I never pictured myself marrying him again. But this was my life and I know what makes me happy so I went for it. We had many support us and thank you all those that did. Especially those that prayed for us while we were divorced. We are blessed to have so many loving faces.
We like to say that our divorce saved our marriage. But it was a combination of things including the Army, the Army was the best thing to happen to him at the right time.
This is actually our third marriage technically. First, was Las Vegas Drive threw, so we are no strangers to quick weddings. Second, in the Salt Lake City Temple. Third, a Native American Blanket Ceremony.
Griff was so happy it was adorable, I mean what kid doesn't want there divorced parents to get back together right.
It was awesome, we actually had vows this time and they were beautiful.
I'm the luckiest girl around to have such an amazing husband!
We are now in Monterey California it's a fairy tale here. We live two blocks from the beach. A block from the biggest/coolest park in the world. We get to see all kinds of beautiful tropical plants and flowers everyday. Chris is learning Thai and we are getting used to Army life and loving it so far.
Cheers to holding out for what you deserve and having it come back to you
I'm kicking off my blogging posts with this funny true life snap shot of our world.
We went to the "walmart is the devil" store, go watch the movie. We don't go often because of this movie and because of other reasons. We are scoping the store looking for something. When Chris comes across the clearance end cap where everything is $1.00! There were an assortment of shampoos, brushes, then the rest of the shelves were filled with tampons and not just any tampons, the tampons that I happen to use. Which normally cost $7.00 dollars a box. Chris was way more stocked about this then I was. Chris suggested I get a few boxes, so while he is browsing. I was thinking this is a hell of a deal, unless for some reason they are a dollar because they are defected or have already been opened or something. But I should really get EVERY SINGLE BOX that is on the shelve. So I fill our now full cart, full of tampons. Chris comes back and says "ooohh, you got all them huh" he was so embarrassed that first off, the only thing in our cart were tampons, and second that it was full of tampons. I had to push the cart because he refused and when people looked at us even just a glance. He was like "oh no they are looking at the tampons"
This is the guy who hates to buy toilet paper because he doesn't want people to know he poops or something. So we go to check out and of course we get a male checker.
Chris tells me to tell the checker that this should hold me over for the week. As if that would make the situation less embarrassing, I wasn't about to say that to the guy.
So now my closet is full of tampons and yes they work.
I saved myself a good $70.00 dollars that day.
I guess sometimes the devil has good deals worth crossing over to the dark side for. Lol
Happy Birthday Boys......Love you
I know some of you will hate me for posting this but tough it out.
Year was 1990 we were driving to Vegas for a family vacation. Its funny because its like are our personalities coming out in this photo. Crystal the mature one (love the young womens shirt by the way), Tamara the family clown, Brandi who wants to be a rock star, me who trys to be the family clown but that title was clearly taken by Tamara, Charles who is just happy to be with his family and Jeremy who is a wanderer and does his own thing which is probably the opposite of what ever we do. There are the Chamberlain kids in a nut shell!
I think this is DC, us three were the 5'2 crew cause we all pretended to be 5'2 when i think we are only 5 feet 1.
Flash back photo of The CrewGeez that was a long post Anna hope you enjoyed, Happy Birthday thanks for all the good times, Let me know when you want to start saving the world!